It wasn't supposed to be a date, but we ended up sleeping together at the end of the night. We didn't go out again, I wasn't looking to raise another guy's kid. I would for sure swipe left on any pregnant girls, that's just asking to be in the middle of someone's drama. A lot depends on what you said in the profile.
In a way, the fact that you are currently pregnant is a good thing. It really sucks when you get attached to "someone else's kid". Lots of memes will say to "man up" in this situation, but my experience has been moms want to do it all themselves. Except the money, of course. Children just become a weapon she uses to win arguments because she knows you won't use them to fight back. If you are pregnant, there is a slightly better chance in being believed that you really do want a true "daddy" who will be there for the kids, and not just some pin cushion you can poke jabs at.
And only because he has a. They would likely walk away unless, perhaps you spoke with them in person. It's just so darn risky not many guys would take the chance, because it would look like you want money.
I'll second this, I'd personally almost rather go out with a pregnant woman, than one who already has a kid, since at least then there is less chance I'd end up feeling like an outsider. I mean dating is dating. You are who you are, you may get some judgement but you can sift through that to maybe find someone potentially positive for you.
Dating sites are always a gamble. His pull out game is weak. Its not an immediate left swipe, bit I sure as hell won't respect you. Take what I can get until you leave. Not even mad at that answer. I'd be looking for the same. Just company and hanging out. When my baby comes, hes always gonna be first and foremost. There's nothing wrong with it. But don't expect a lot of long term relationships to come out of it. Few men are okay with raising someone else's offspring.
Dude there was no reason for you to add the last part of your comment. Hey, you asked the men, but I would like to add my personal experience with men during pregnancy:. Harry Potter's fancy cloak is a cleaning rag compared to the powerful men-repelling shield that is a visible pregnancy. I was not looking to date as I am happily married and for sure was not on Tinder, but I noticed very clearly how there was no male attention left at all where before being pregnant I would get looked and smiled at or approached in some sort.
I have even seen guys overtake me in the street, looking at me in a way that told me that they were checking me out from behind, only to see the realization dawn in their eyes when they saw my belly.
So what I want to tell you: At least for now, during pregnancy. I wish you good luck for new love and above all for you and your baby: Imagine the reaction when a really attractive woman who would never normally talk to a man hits on them, and then the man finds out the woman has a child.
I think dating while pregnant would be a really really difficult road to travel. I would constantly be worried that the guy would just want to have sex without the fear of getting me pregnant and would most likely bail before baby is born. I would also worry that any guy who was interested might have some sort of weird ulterior motive or fetish. Yeah the fetish thing creeps me out. I've already been approached on reddit based on other posts about me being pregnant. That's my thing, I'm lonely. Far from my friends. I just wanna like, hang out.
When the baby is born I'm gonna be too busy. I think most guys that would swipe right would think like me, so you should be fine. I am not sure I have much advice for your profile. Just try to make it obvious you are looking for a date Will you post back here in a few month and let us know how it went? I have been leaning towards just kinda being bored and lonely during pregnancy and maybe dating when my son is a little older. But I bet being pregnant on tinder would be a source of a lot of funny and weird stories. Well, I would probably have to come up with more lines if I matched with you.
I normally go with "are you a school? Because I want to shoot some kids inside you. Are you going to pay me for this? It would be bad enough to date someone that has kids who has already got her life organized. If you do go that route, at least make it clear you were in a relationship that ended during the pregnancy.
If you plan to give the baby up for adoption mention that as well. As for using a dating app, I'd Definately be up front about being pregnant, some guys would probably freak out if you didn't tell them up front. And just because you're pregnant doesn't mean you can't meet someone or go on dates. For whatever reason you are single and pregnant if a guy cant except that, then they're not right for you anyway. I may be on an island here but if I saw you I'd swipe right. As is I'm a normal dude, married but in an open poly marriage. My wife has her bf and I can have a gf if i met the right lady.
I know opinions and assumptions can lead people the wring way. Some folks aren't open minded to except that a person can love multiple people at once. Some folks aren't open minded enough to except a pregnant woman can date. And some people assume a guy who wants to date a pregnant lady is a fetish freak. Some guys are attracted to women with big breasts, some guys are attracted to women with big butts, some guys are attracted thin women, some attracted to curvy women, some even attracted to pregnant women.
You can't automatically assume a guy wanting to date a pregnant women is a freak anymore then someone who wants to date women with any other quality. People are attracted to what they are attracted to, there are bad eggs in every group. I myself have always been attracted to pregnant women. There is nothing more feminine and beautiful. My wife doesn't want to ever be pregnant. I feel she would be even more beautiful.
So I would totally date a pregnant woman. But I'm not some perv. If I'm not compatible with a woman, it would go no where. I would prefer a relationship, but that must be built on some common ground not just physical attraction. For me meeting a pregnant woman is improbable. To meet someone who is poly, has similar interests on which to found a relationship and do such in under 9 months Wow very judgmental on your part. Actually, pregnancy can be an accident. I have a myriad of health issues and was told since my teen years that I'm infertile. I have been barren and even when I tried in the past to conceive, I failed.
This was a complete fluke. And when he found out I was pregnant, his whole attitude changed. I'm employed full time and come from a well off family. I'm not looking for a supporter or a new dad but just some company while I struggle through these last 4 boring and lonely months.
You should really not make such snap judgments about people.
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Wow very judgmental on your part. I have a myriad of health issues and was told since my teen years that I'm infertile. Expect to get less likes from the people that it wouldn't work out with anyways due to their closed minded biased. I don't think it's "wrong" but I think it would be difficult to get dates. Eventually and effortlessly he'd graduate to something more.
But don't be surprised if y9u don't get the results you expect. But I'd do the same if you weren't pregnant but had a child. Or weren't pregnant and didn't have a child, but wanted one at some point. Or hookup apps for that matter You're obviously looking for someone who thinks it is or is neutral to it. Just seems like A LOT right from the start. I was basically expecting this answer.
Why would I pay for some other man's mistake. I appreciate this honesty. On the other hand, the full story: I don't wanna raise someone else's sprog. I think it's either going to be an absolute no go or they won't mind at all. I'll be honest, it's almost worse than being a single mother, for me.
Pregnant dating sites: Finding a date during pregnancy. Many single women think that because they're pregnant, dating is off the table. One of the reasons. So I have been on a dating site for a while and met a few guys already none of which care that I'm pregnant it's the first thing I told them what do.
Your priorities are messed up. That's just my opinion. Don't be surprised if a lot of other dudes feel the same way. You're free to try any dating site you like but you aren't going to get a lot of matches. I was deemed infertile and barren. It was literally a miracle. Then consider your options and ability when it comes to leaving that area.
Except the money, of course Children just become a weapon she uses to win arguments because she knows you won't use them to fight back. But I personally wouldn't be on a dating site in the first place. It's almost like when you have a liability you have to lower your standards. I also still communicate with men on an online dating site I am subscribed to, one of whom I am supposed to go out with when I return from my babymoon to Brazil in the next couple of weeks. Some might find my desire to date odd, like I'm rushing from one romantic situation to get to the next, but that's not what's happening here.
I'm not desperate for companionship—I've got plenty of support from friends and family—and there aren't any breakup wounds I need to heal. The start-and-stop relationship with my child's father aside, I am pretty clear about what I'm looking for in a life partner, and even clearer now that there's a child involved. This means not rushing into anything. It also means not actively hitting happy hour spots in an effort to find "him. Right now, while I still have some time before my son arrives and requires all of my attention, it's just nice to go out for the occasional Friday night dinner-and-a-movie date.
That's what William and I have planned post-Brazil. I met the year-old graduate school student and IT technician online a couple of weeks ago and told him 10 minutes into our first conversation that I was expecting. In all fairness I do list that I am a parent on my profile, but there isn't a box to indicate that your child is still in gestation! He was surprised and inquisitive but not at all squeamish. The single father of a year-old son, himself, he appeared to get it immediately—that sometimes things just don't work out, and you move on.
Becoming a Single Mom. William will actually be the second guy I'll go out with since finding out I was pregnant. The first was a gentleman I already knew and had dated previously. He took the baby news similarly well, which has helped to boost my confidence about the whole preggo and dating thing. But as a male friend recently pointed out, I do have to be mindful of a couple of things. Namely, that some guys have a sexual fetish for pregnant women what with the significantly lowered "risk" of pregnancy if you're already carrying.